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When we look at what the factors are that make life so miserable for young gays and lesbians, it’s tempting for progressives to point the finger at religious traditions that are hostile to sexual pluralism. But the young men in American high schools who are beating up other boys whom they suspect of being gay are rarely doing so in order to comply with a misunderstood dictate from the Torah or the Pauline epistles. It’s not faith that drives the hate as much as it is an overwhelming desire to establish masculine bona fides. “I torment faggots, therefore I can’t be one; I beat up queers, therefore I’m a man.” That toxic equation may be aided and abetted by conservative religion, but it isn’t rooted in it. Rather, the hateful behavior is rooted in the rigid rules of American masculinity, a masculinity predicated on a contempt for and a paranoia about even the slightest whiff of femininity among the be-penised.
Homosociality and homophobia: why the distorted rules of “manhood” are the real problem at Hugo Schwyzer (via sexisnottheenemy)
(Reblogged from anarchofeminist)
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Had he been in bed with a woman, this would not have happened. He wouldn’t have been outed via an online broadcast, and his privacy would have been respected and he might still have his life.

A longer version of my quote, because the partial and out of context version has apparently been misinterpreted as homophobic.

More: here.

projectqueer: queerwatch: John Bickford: I suggest going to Target, filling up a cart with stuff you would normally buy there, then abandoning the cart with a sign taped to it that reads: “This is what I would have bought today, except that Target lost my business by contributing to a homophobic politician who wants to take my rights away.” View high resolution

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John Bickford: I suggest going to Target, filling up a cart with stuff you would normally buy there, then abandoning the cart with a sign taped to it that reads: “This is what I would have bought today, except that Target lost my business by contributing to a homophobic politician who wants to take my rights away.”

(Reblogged from projectqueer)

Quinn repeats myth that "pedophilia is far more rampant among the gay community than it is among the straight community"

(via projectqueer)

I’m not even going to waste my time commenting on how ridiculous that claim is — instead I’m just going to sit here and LOL @ the term “straight community.”

(Reblogged from projectqueer)

Homophobia, Taught At An Early Age

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You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late / Before you are six or seven or eight / To hate all the people your relatives hate / You’ve got to be carefully taught

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I hate when people say “no homo”. Seriously? Are you really that immature and homophobic that you’re so deathly afraid of being related to one? It’s just a compliment. It doesn’t mean you want to fuck them on the bathroom floor.

dionnadecay:

seraorchid:

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vient:

leslover:

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beckypatterson:

too-gay-to-function:

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cassie4561:

jennephurrr:

(via circasurvivesforerica)

If someone I’m with says “no homo”, I give them a compliment, and say “…yes homo” And suggestively look at them. It brings about fun reactions. 

 YES HOMO (:

“…future generations will look back at us and say: ‘in 2010, can you believe that we spent almost $5 million putting out this kind of a survey?’”

The dynamic between people of color and the LGBTQ community is problematic in a lot of ways, and lately, the posts at Queerty have really been getting to me. I’m not exactly a Sherri Shepherd fan, but they rip on her constantly, and it’s not always because she’s saying something blatantly homophobic (as in this video), but partially because the white gay men who think they can speak for our entire community are completely blind to the way race plays into this debate.

In this video, I actually think she brings up some pretty relevant points. While I agree that wives of cheating men run the risk of unknowingly contracting HIV regardless of whether they’re being cheated in with men or women, that’s not necessarily relevant to the reasons why black men are living on the downlow. The fact is, queer people of color (particularly black men, in this discussion) face many obstacles that white members of our community do not, both because of racism within our community and because of anti-LGBTQ prejudices within the black community. In this video, and especially in the second half of the video, it’s clear to me that while Shepherd doesn’t always have the most progressive views in terms of LGBTQ rights, part of the problem is that Thomas Roberts — the gay, white, former CNN anchor in this video — is not willing to recognize his own white privilege. In no part of this video does Shepherd deny the fact that black women can contract HIV through drug usage or unsafe sex with straight men; she simply points out the problematic reality of men on the downlow. And she’s heavily criticized for that simplistic explanation of HIV amongst black women, though Queerty’s justification for this criticism is just as (if not more) ignorant and simplistic. Why? They seem to overlook the simple fact that SHE IS BLACK, and probably has more knowledge of the black community than white gay men do. Call her “uneducated” all you want, but she doesn’t need to know statistics in order to understand the reality of black women who have been affected by the downlow.

Don’t get me wrong. I’ve heard HIV+ black women speak in anger over the fact that their husbands cheated on them with men. I’ve even heard them say blatantly homophobic things about those men, and essentially blame the entire gay population for their disease. Those comments are in no way justified, but blaming a black woman’s “stupidity” on this “lazy explanation” isn’t, either. It also overlooks a lot of the important, relevant points made in this video with respect to the downlow. Do I agree with Sherri Shepherd’s religious, conservative, and sometimes homophobic views on various issues? Of course not. Do I think she sometimes makes ignorant claims about issues she’s not fully informed of? Absolutely. But I also think Queerty (and others) find it far too easy to push her aside as a black woman, arguing that she’s homophobic when in reality, they’re guilty of their own prejudices as well.

To the Straight Guy at the Party Last Night.

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Reblogged from fuckyeahlgbt; Via this Craigslist post:

A mutual friend of ours threw a big party for her 30th birthday, tons of people were there and it was a lot of fun. Somewhere along the line you and I ended up on the balcony for some fresh air at the same time. We started chatting; we talked about sports, books, tv – discovered we both are about to start our masters degrees and spent some time debating the pro’s and con’s of the educational system. We talked about hanging out sometime, and you wanted to meet my girlfriend.

I understand how upsetting it was for you when I blinked mildly in surprise and said I was here with my husband. I know it was a shock to your system, if your face had turned any paler I might have called 911. You made a good recovery though - that hurried mutter of “I’m not like that” was very polite and you only knocked over two drinks and one vase in your hurry to rush to anywhere other than near me. I can’t blame you – I forgot how delicate you straight boys are. So I wanted to give you a few helpful hints about where you went wrong last night.

1) As a general rule we don’t walk around with big signs around our neck proclaiming our sexuality. No scarlet letters, no scent of hellfire and brimstone… sorry about that.

2) We do not generally assume that everyone within 5 feet of us must also be homosexual – it was nice of you to immediately reassure me that you are hetero, but it was really unnecessary.

3) Homosexuality is not infectious. While I am sure you meant no disrespect with your hasty departure; in the future you can rest assured that taking a few extra seconds in your mad dash for safety will not result in you being turned gay. It will however keep you from destroying expensive vases and knocking over senior citizens.

4) This next one may come as a surprise; but you are not, in fact, irresistible. The fact that you have a dick does not instantly turn me into a bundle of uncontrolled lust. Contrary to popular opinion, being in the same room with a straight man does not cause a gay man to instantly lose all common sense and basic common courtesy. Though I am not so sure about the reverse.

5) Homosexuals in general get a little irked when people treat us like some sort of leper. Rushing to another mutual friend of ours and advising him of my sexuality, so he could be “forewarned” was really uncalled for.

6) Upon being told (by said mutual friend) to stop being an idiot and that you were not my type anyway… it generally confuses the issue when you then proceed to become upset that I DON’T find you attractive. Three seconds ago you were running through a crowd of people with your hands cupped protectively over your junk as if I might attack you at any moment with a blowjob. See hint number 4.

7) We homosexuals have an odd sense of humor – I can’t help that. Something about watching you freak out as if all the demons of hell were after you just struck me as vastly amusing.

8) While being pissed at me for dissolving into uncontrollable laughter might be understandable… gathering a couple guys together to “teach the fag a lesson” is not.

9) You might also want to drink a little less and be a little more careful about the guys you approach for your little proto-hate-mob.

10) Assuming the two tall muscle-bound bruisers must be uber-hetero and just as appalled by my presence as you was your first mistake. It was an understandable one though. How were you to know that pflag tshirt the first guy was wearing wasn’t a sports team? Also the rainbow ring the second guy was wearing could have meant anything I am sure.

11) In retrospect I suppose that upon hearing your not very subtle hate-talk and seeing who you were heading for; I could have said something instead of just laughing harder. I apologize for that. I should have just introduced you to my husband instead of letting you walk up to him and ask him if he wanted to help you teach “that fag over there” a lesson. I hope that broken nose heals up cleanly.

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BEST.

PERFECTION.

(Reblogged from jumbleofnotes)